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Jennifer Carss's avatar

Oooooh, this is an interesting one about his intentions.

I do think online, it is easy to stay in a bubble convinced that everyone's intentions are bad.

For a couple of years I had a podcast called Queerious. I interviewed 'Queer' Artists about their work and what it was like growing up gay etc. It was quite enjoyable and affirming to hear embarrassing stories about falling in love with the straight girl in school (classic). But what I wasn't aware of at all, was that Queer Theory existed or was even a belief system.

I had heard that Queer was a slur that people used to use against gay blokes but it had been 'reclaimed'. At that time, I thought it was a powerful thing to encourage and would go to Queer groups for film nights and events. Purely to have a laugh and meet new people. Never with ill-intentions. Again, I named my podcast this because I thought it was a cool name.

Since having a massive mental health breakdown (or hitting woke breaking point as Lindsay once put it), I started to reassess things and realised that one of my core values had been ignored since being embedded in this way of thinking. My dad taught me that being gay is not a big deal. It's about wanting to have sex with the same sex and that's the only difference between me and someone else. He was right and I knew that in my heart, but for years would get more involved with being Queer, lots of naval gazing with anger and saying Capitalism a lot and spending hours and hours online and berating and shouting at people for believing differently.

I still feel ashamed about that.

A lot of people don't really have a clue about all of these theories and it would be incredibly helpful if they were rightly framed as theories and not facts. Especially when looked at in universities or social groups.

Mamdani seems to be a critical theory advocate in lots of his personal politics, so no doubt he knows what Queer means in that context, but I think the word Queer to most people now means gay or including all letters of the gay alphabet. Whether people like that or not.

And when people belong to LGB groups, it's going to be hard to have dialogue about it, because from the Queer side you are made aware that anyone questioning your views is a bigot or deliberately wants to bully people or exclude them. And I'm sure as you know being a Bisexual woman, part of the experience of being gay is not wanting other people to be picked on or left out.

Anyway, I wish I could afford to subscribe, but sadly I am a penniless pauper. But still your biggest fan and one day will curtsey you for helping me come out of this way of thinking. Seems good story telling, cognitive dissonance and rational kindness are ways of helping people come out of such ideologies.

Have a great week! :)

Annie Kia's avatar

Good article, thankyou. In Australia it is now illegal for lesbians to organise public events for same-sex attracted women. This is because queer theory dogma has been enacted into laws and policies. Lesbians are now meant to be attracted to males who claim to be lesbians, who describe their penises as ‘female penises’. Genderists deny or downplay biological sex and say the subjective ‘gender identity’ should override all other considerations. We are now subject to authoritarian laws informed by queer theory. The legacy LGB organisations have been colonised by queer theory and gender ideology. These LGBTQWERTY organisations now produce glossaries that redefine us to fit the dogma. Whereas a few years ago we fought for ‘same sex’ marriage, the phrase ‘same sex’ has been sent to the scrap heap. We are now described as ‘same gender attracted’. I want nothing to do with ‘queer’. I want nothing to do with the ever expanding acronym. I ask that if people would like to refer to a lesbian they use the word ‘lesbian’. If referring to same-sex attracted people, say ‘LGB’. But please don’t force-team us in the LGBTQ+ acronym, and please don’t call us ‘queer’.

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